One of the tricky problems of infertility, though it wasn't nearly as important as other concerns, was the problem of "losing" names.
No, I hadn't forgotten them or anything like that, but the names I would like and add to a list eventually were lost to becoming popular.
Now, I don't intend to name my kids anything particularly extraordinary, but having a name that was particularly popular when I was born has lead me to none too few situations where I and another friend/classmate looked at a teacher to see which "Laura" they were talking to.
Additionally, I need to say that I wouldn't choose a name because it's popular, even if it's beautiful and fits so well with our intentions for naming. This might sound goofy, but we really, really avoided names on the top 10 or 12 list. Having a John and a Laura in the family didn't help. Having a sister-in-law named Laura, with the same last name, was also an incentive to name Suzy something not particularly typical.
So, as we waited to conceive, I saw names I loved suddenly shoot to the top of lists for most popular names. Here are some I liked before they got "big":
among others. So, for one reason or another, these names dropped from my list, though if something came up that made a top name really, really, really necessary, we'd consider it.
That said, now comes another name on my list that may be dropped - maybe.
When Adele, the singer, got REALLY famous after her "21" album made it, I went searching for names of similar sound or meaning. Alice became a contender both with the hypothetical and actual considerations. The general order of preference for names, as they were over a year ago:
Elizabeth (as high as #12 at one time last year according to some website somewhere)
So when Suzy was born, Rosalind and Caroline were dropped pretty quickly for one reason or another. Alice was a #3 consideration for a while, and the debate between Elizabeth and Suzanna waged for 48 hours. It wasn't that awesome. After "sleeping on it," we didn't feel settled on Elizabeth, and - with about 30 minutes to spare before leaving the hospital - we decided on Suzanna.
I don't think Alice got the full consideration that Elizabeth and Suzanna did, but Suzy is definitely a good fit, and Alice has been on "reserve" for whenever we might have a daughter again. It's not a definite, but it's a real possibility.
Now the new royal British babe has been born, and all the bookies have 6-4 odds or so than she will be named Alice. Charlotte is also a consideration, but my money would also be on the girl who went to Wonderland.
Would I take Alice off the list if the new princess were named as such? I don't know, but there'd be more than a few comments, I'm sure, regarding the inspiration for the name.
That all said, there are plenty of Williams and Henrys out there,
to my buddies, Will and Kate:
could you go ahead and pick some incredibly regal name and let the common folk have Alice for themselves - i.e. me?
Also, Kate - when you're over your clothes, just let me know, and you can ship them to me.
I'll take them off your hands - no problem!
- update: as the world knows, "Alice" will still be a contender for the next baby.